Hi my sweet, wellness friends. Happy almost Valentines Day. I love any holiday that gives me an excuse to eat chocolate. Raw chocolate of course! Right now I’m pretty obsessed with Hu chocolate. Especially the fig and almond one. My mouth is watering just thinking about it.
Back to today’s topic on how to get into a healing mindset! It took me a while to get to get on the right track. After years of struggling with chronic illness and realizing this situation wasn’t going away anytime soon I became a bit discouraged. And sometimes a little angry. Okay, a lot angry. I asked myself daily, “why me?” What did I ever do to deserve this misery? Natural reactions but not exactly the healthiest thoughts to be having.
I finally took a step back and thought to myself if I am going to get through this I am going to have to change my attitude. This cycle of feeling crappy and thinking angry thoughts did not help me in any way. I decided to focus on what I could control and the actions I could take to support myself. These small changes made a big impact. Slowly I was able to feel more at peace and also achieve great progress. I took various steps to achieve this balance and start healing.
1. Stop Sulking Immediately
If you are going to move forward then you must accept the situation for what it is and stop playing the victim. The stress of being in a constant state of anger does not help you so why bother? It’s easier said than done. This does not mean you can’t have a bad day or cry it out when you are having a bad day but don’t let those feelings consume you.
I didn’t want my illness to define me as a person. I kept my daily routine as much as possible to avoid becoming my illness. Was this challenging at times? Absolutely. However, it helped to keep me moving forward. I did not want to lose myself.
2. Take up a Creative Hobby
Odds are you aren’t going out and socializing as much as you used to leaving you with too much free time to dwell. Find a hobby or a creative outlet to let it all out! You can write, paint, garden or knit. Whatever you feel like doing! You do not have to make a masterpiece. It can be something completely new that you want to learn. This is just for you and your eyes only. This activity should bring you joy, not additional stress. It can give you something to turn to when you are feeling overwhelmed.
I turned to multiple outlets which included writing and knitting. I had a pic line in my arm for 6 weeks which required me to administer intravenous antibiotics daily. They took over an hour to drip. It was not a fun process so I took my mind off of it by watching a TV show and knitting to pass the time. It may not seem exciting but it was therapeutic.
3. Practice Self-Care
Get into the habit of doing things that make you feel good. The ritual of it all makes it even more exciting and gives you something to look forward to on daily basis. Meditate for 10 minutes a day. Light candles, take a daily bubble bath with essential oils and soothing music. The key is doing it routinely. The more you reduce your stress, the more your body can focus on healing itself.
4. Get Proactive
Once I got myself in a more positive mindset I was able to start thinking about my next steps. How did I want to support my healing? I was diagnosed with an “incurable” disease (chronic Lyme) but did I really want to accept that? I’ve mentioned this before and I will say it again: I always knew deep down I could improve my quality of life.
Holistic approaches have always appealed to me more than Western medicine. I read everything I could on rebuilding your immune system, saw new doctors to gain additional perspectives and stuck with the ones who I believed in the most. I became my own health champion. This pro-active approach helped me to turn my health around significantly.
5. Connect with Inspiring People.
The universe always had a way of connecting me with inspiring people. People who healed themselves from similar situations. This gave me hope and ignited my determination to keep moving forward. They coached me, supported me and sometimes even guided me to the right resources. I was able to make these connections by being open with my story.
It was interesting to see how all of us had similar issues and everyone had their own unique ways to support themselves. There was no single path to recovery. What everyone had in common was a belief they could get better and an openness to explore alternative paths. I chose the recommendations that I thought made the most sense for me.
Remember healing is a process. Focus on the good, surround yourself with as much inspiration as you can and keep moving forward. When I felt my worst, I started following all the people who inspired me on social media so I would have daily reminders and positivity to keep moving forward. Whatever works! Find what brings you peace and incorporate it into your daily life. That’s when the real healing starts.